"Can you hear me now...well how about now...Can you hear me now?" (Short pause) "Good." -Verizon Mobile Idol
The situation stated above is mostly know for the commercials making the company the most formidable challenger to AT&T's empire. However, have you ever thought how that scenario applies to your everyday life and interactions?
Well you don't have to. I'll think for you. I'm sure plenty of you have made the mistake of spacing out mid-conversation with a friend or loved one and they caught you and attacked you for not paying attention. They're right it's frustrating.
The key to making any relationships with another person, no matter what type you encounter, is trust and a similar to unique way of communication. That's what attracts others to us and us to them. They can communicate effectively with humor, seriousness, emotions, or non-verbal cues. Thus, allowing for a comfort zone to form and the relationship to flourish. Plus all of the good times to follow. Yada yada yada. What we as people of all ages have here is a failure to communicate.
We always think we are communicating with another person just by being there and looking at them as we attempt to listen. We believe it pleases them. We are wrong in every way. We are pleasing only ourselves with the little effort it takes to make us happy. If yo think this works for you keep on doing it. Go ahead. You'll probably end up happy not "having" to please another by only worrying about yourself. Perfect solution. That way at the end of the day you're the only person who's getting pleased while you remain unexhausted trying to please some one else. Now please shut up and listen. As you've already failed the first part of communicating. This is gonna get good.
Communicating with someone can be the worst idea ever. After you establish a comfort zone you're connected with person for a long while. Sucks huh? Stuck. Glued. Tied down. Ball and chain. Then they start to expect things from you. Like reciprocation, feelings, your own thoughts and opinions, and even the worst...sometimes love. If you find yourself still reading and wanna quit then you probably quit earlier after you realized this wasn't about some Verizon promo. It's about to get real.
We as people always feel like we're not being heard or listened to or thought of when it counts. Our friends and lovers probably think the same of us. It's because we communicate but don't reciprocate. Once we get what we want our minds shut down and it turns its focus on to when's the beer being chugged or when am I gonna get laid tonight.
Reciprocation applies to all facets of life. It's EQUAL give and take. You hear that humans? EQUAL. It's a new word being used I'm sure you'll get used to it. Women and African Americans already earned their right to vote and civil rights. And they know quite a bit about suffering. So don't complain about being equal.
In order to reciprocate you have to to want to. If you honestly don't want to then you shouldn't keep half-assedly trying to. You'll save you and the other poor souls a lot of stress and pointless arguing. If you're involved with someone or are dating them you both have to want. You have to want to communicate well, love well, and trust well amongst other things. If you don't want anything then you'll never keep anything. So want communications and you'll keep a dear friend or special someone. If you strongly care about them make the effort to talk. Ball up all the pride you have and throw it in an incinerator and watch it burn slowly. Pride kills. Ask any real or fictional radical ruler who tried to take over the world. The good guy always wins.
Especially if the other person knows you really well, they won't stop talking to you without letting you know something is wrong. I admit I have too much pride sometimes. This is the main reason I'm writing this. I hate it, but it's a part of me. So therefore I deal with it menacingly.
Communicate. Rinse. Reciprocate. Repeat the process until you've reached eternal happiness. (Hint: won't ever happen, but you're happier searching for it. Happy people just don't shoot their loved ones.)
Remember, We before I except when I is being chased by the other half of We as they try and strangle I. In that case everything I said doesn't apply. My name is Kyle and I approve of this message. Trust me, I'm cool.
C'est la vie hombres y hombros.
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